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3 Sex Toys That Do Very Different Things

26/08/2020
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Sex toys are empowering… and can improve intimacy exponentially. For starters, toys offer entirely new ways to learn exactly what you like, as well as close the orgasm gap with your partner. In fact, 49% percent of couples who use vibrators report communicating often, whether it be about sex or other subjects. In contrast, of those who don’t use vibrators, only 29% could report the same level of openness and communication.

And the beauty of toys is, each shape and size serves an entirely different purpose…

Here is a sneak peak at three toys and what you can do with them.

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1. The ‘rabbit-style’ vibe

A rabbit vibrator is a combination of an external vibrator and a G-spot toy. Rabbit-style vibrators have an external piece that provides vibration to the clitoris, while a second deeper attachment can go inside for G-spot stimulation. What makes this toy perfect is its versatility. It’s designed to provide maximum pleasure and blended orgasms, but can also be used one way or the other.

The SKYN Vibes Personal Pleasure Vibrating Massager is a great rabbit-style option. This vibe has multiple settings and is perfect for solo-quarantine-play, to safely explore what you like… and then together with a partner.

“The day I taught my boyfriend how I like to use my vibrator was definitely a turning point in our relationship”, says Liana, 32.

You can put on an incredibly sexy show by masturbating with the vibe in front of your partner, while describing what you’re doing. You can also try placing the vibrator in your partner’s hand and then guiding them with yours.

2. The male masturbator

Male masturbators or ‘strokers’ often feature a soft, tube-like space to masturbate into. With all of them pretty much mimicking the feeling of oral/vaginal/anal sex.

The best toys are designed to blend in. The SKYN Stroke Male Self-Pleasure Egg, checks all of these boxes. The egg design is super discrete and can come in handy anytime. It truly couldn’t look less suspicious.

Just add any SKYN lubricant, and you’re halfway there. The Stroke features a ribbed texture, which provides additional sensations. What’s cool is that you can use it alone, or with a partner… most notably during oral sex. Place the egg at the base of the penis while your partner uses their mouth to stimulate the head.

3. Bullet vibes

The beauty of bullet massagers is that they resemble slim tubes of lipstick and are discrete enough that you can bring them and use them anywhere. They’re perhaps the easiest and smallest type of vibrator you can use, and feature one easy on/off switch.

The SKYN Thrill Discrete Vibrating Bullet is incredible. One button controls the slow, medium and high vibrating speeds that intensify with pin-point accuracy. It can be used with any type of lubricant and fits right on your nightstand. It’s rechargeable by USB, and comes in a pretty rose gold color.

Bullet vibes are great for holding against the clitoris during penetrative sex. Shea says, “don’t forget to use a good lubricant, like SKYN Excite Gel which is designed to make the clitoris more receptive to touch. Try dabbing on a little bit before using your bullet”.

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Closing the orgasm gap

05/08/2020
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The orgasm gap is real. But fortunately, with the right information, we can work on closing it together ❤

The orgasm gap exists strictly in heterosexual relationships…and refers to the fact that men orgasm more frequently than women. In fact, 95% of heterosexual men, reported that they ‘usually’ or ‘always’ experienced orgasm during sex, compared to 65% of women (and only 39% of college-aged women). The figures vary by study, but the conclusion remains: heterosexual men are coming more than the women they’re sleeping with.

So what gives? Why are straight women having less orgasms than their male counterparts?

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…Two other gaps help explain this gendered issue.

Lesbian vs. Straight Sex: Research shows that the orgasm gap is a non-issue in lesbian relationships — as it essentially disappears. With lesbian women experiencing orgasm 86% of the time. Interestingly, men’s orgasm rates were unaffected by their sexual orientation.

Women Alone vs. With a Partner: Women have significantly more orgasms while masturbating vs. while with a partner.

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“The orgasm gap is a cultural problem”

So — if lesbian women and masturbating women are having more orgasms than women when they have sex with men… what’s causing this gendered gap in heterosexual sex?

Though it could appear that penile involvement is to blame — the orgasm gap is a cultural problem.

Here are just a few reasons why the orgasm gap is as complex as it is cultural.
The overvaluing penetrative sex

As a society, we overvalue penetrative sex. Just 3 to 10% of women reliably orgasm from penetration alone, yet society consistently presents us with images of women having mind-blowing orgasms from intercourse in movies, porn and on TV.

Our language tells a similar story. We use the words ‘sex’ and ‘intercourse’ interchangeably and clitoral stimulation is considered as ‘foreplay’ and not part of the main event. We have countless nicknames for ‘penis’ and few (if any) for the clitoris. All of this results in misinformation, false expectations and couples thinking they’re doing it wrong.

The female pleasure taboo

There are endless cultural reasons that contribute to the orgasm gap, but they all seem to stem from our denial of female pleasure. To start, sex education doesn’t usually focus on pleasure. Growing up, our definition of ‘sex’, begins with a male getting an erection and ends with ejaculation. Our society judges women for enjoying sex, having casual sex and having multiple sexual partners. And yet, being able to openly communicate with your partner is key to reaching orgasm.

You can see why it could be difficult to explicitly ask for something that our society is in denial of. Additionally, many women are plagued by self-consciousness during sex… and it’s basically impossible to have an orgasm while sucking in your stomach. Finally, reaching orgasm requires a mindfulness that few of us have mastered in our daily life, let alone our sex lives.

In an interview with Cosmo, Nicki Minaj made explained that she demands orgasms from her sexual partners. She also explained that she teaches her friends how to demand (and receive) orgasms from their male partners too: “I demand that I climax. I think women should demand that. I have a friend who’s never had an orgasm in her life. In her life! That hurts my heart. It’s cuckoo to me.”

“I have a friend who’s never had an orgasm in her life. In her life!”
Nicki Minaj

Closing the orgasm gap

Closing the orgasm gap comes down to education, clitoral knowledge, and the willingness to apply that knowledge.

To close the orgasm gap, we have to hold clitoral stimulation and penetration as equal. Most women require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, and not penetration alone. Both women and men must understand this and really apply this knowledge.

Because when it comes to the orgasm gap, the work is far from over — not just in raising awareness of it’s existence — but in exploring the deep and complex reasons as to why it’s so difficult for women to ask for and receive orgasms. We must give people the tools they need to explore their own sexual pleasure, and the confidence to communicate that with their partners.

Adding toys into the mix can be a fantastic way to show your partner exactly what works for you and to increase your level of intimacy. Normalizing and using vibes is a simple way to begin closing the gap; vibes are a great addition to foreplay and can be used externally during penetrative sex.

Closing the orgasm gap may be a long and winding road… but one thing’s for sure: pleasure is an endless exploration.

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